Question 1:
Feiring said that teens have problems in their relationships when the relationship becomes long-term. I think this is caused by how the teens pick partners. When I was an adolescent I picked partners that were cool or cute, not because we had anything in common or because he was smart or funny. Teens pick partners depending on trivial matters and do not think ahead to the fact that their compatibility might be low.
Question 2:
When you have friendships with people of the same sex it helps you adjust smoother than if you just had romantic relationships because someone of the same sex has an idea of what you are feeling and the issues that might be at hand. Someone of the opposite sex might sympathise but that does not mean that they understand. A same-sex friend is more of a support system, someone who understands and can help you through it.
Ah, so perhaps the partners that teens pick are just not conducive to long-term relationships (perhaps as opposed to an arranged marriage where parents are SOLELY concerned with features of the spouse that are conducive to long term relationships).
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