1. I think that the difference between the way adolescents and young children think is that children have friends, but they are not at that stage where they are influenced by them. Adolescents, on the other hand, are at that stage where everything they do, or decide to do, is influenced by their peers, even if they are unaware of this fact. Children are still influenced by their parents and their way of thinking is more of "follow the rules," and adolescents are defiant and their thinking is based on emotion and social status. Young adults are more in control of their faculties and have more life experiences becuase they have been in that adolescent stage. Young adults are more likely to with logic and reason based on their in tact, new cognitive pathways, and of course their experience will helo them along the way.
2. I think that cognitive pathways have a lot of impact in the way that adolescents think, because they have this heightened sensitivity to things and their brains are not ready for that sensitivity. The brain is making the changes to deal wih these new changes but the changes are not yet complete and this could easily cause confusion and anger. Storm and stress.
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Friday, January 14, 2011
Latin Dating
Question1:
The gap between expectations and dating caused tension because parents did not always describe what dating should and should not entail. I think that parents should explain appropriate dating behavior and be open with their kids when questions arise. I can understand how being told to not get pregnant would feel, especially if you had no clue as to how to get pregnant, as some of those girls didn't know. I think that it should be up to the teens as well to broach the subject. They can explain that they are not going to jump right into sex and that a little bit of trust is called for.
Question 2:
I have a few Indian friends and I believe that they have a lower rate of AIDS and unplanned pregnancy because their marriages are arranged. Honor is very crucial in those societies and virtue and pureness are highly valued. If a girl has had sex before marriage the family is shamed. The fact that arranged marriages take place so often has to help also because they sometimes do not meet their spouses till the day of the wedding.
Question 3:
What I find most surprising is that parents did not want to talk to their daughters about sex, like if that would keep them virginal. I also thought that it was weird how fathers did not want to meet boyfriends until marriage was around the corner. From my experiences as a teen, my father wanted to know everyone I went out with, it was a matter of safety and I cannot imagine why a father would not care to know.
The gap between expectations and dating caused tension because parents did not always describe what dating should and should not entail. I think that parents should explain appropriate dating behavior and be open with their kids when questions arise. I can understand how being told to not get pregnant would feel, especially if you had no clue as to how to get pregnant, as some of those girls didn't know. I think that it should be up to the teens as well to broach the subject. They can explain that they are not going to jump right into sex and that a little bit of trust is called for.
Question 2:
I have a few Indian friends and I believe that they have a lower rate of AIDS and unplanned pregnancy because their marriages are arranged. Honor is very crucial in those societies and virtue and pureness are highly valued. If a girl has had sex before marriage the family is shamed. The fact that arranged marriages take place so often has to help also because they sometimes do not meet their spouses till the day of the wedding.
Question 3:
What I find most surprising is that parents did not want to talk to their daughters about sex, like if that would keep them virginal. I also thought that it was weird how fathers did not want to meet boyfriends until marriage was around the corner. From my experiences as a teen, my father wanted to know everyone I went out with, it was a matter of safety and I cannot imagine why a father would not care to know.
Adolescent Romance
Question 1:
Feiring said that teens have problems in their relationships when the relationship becomes long-term. I think this is caused by how the teens pick partners. When I was an adolescent I picked partners that were cool or cute, not because we had anything in common or because he was smart or funny. Teens pick partners depending on trivial matters and do not think ahead to the fact that their compatibility might be low.
Question 2:
When you have friendships with people of the same sex it helps you adjust smoother than if you just had romantic relationships because someone of the same sex has an idea of what you are feeling and the issues that might be at hand. Someone of the opposite sex might sympathise but that does not mean that they understand. A same-sex friend is more of a support system, someone who understands and can help you through it.
Feiring said that teens have problems in their relationships when the relationship becomes long-term. I think this is caused by how the teens pick partners. When I was an adolescent I picked partners that were cool or cute, not because we had anything in common or because he was smart or funny. Teens pick partners depending on trivial matters and do not think ahead to the fact that their compatibility might be low.
Question 2:
When you have friendships with people of the same sex it helps you adjust smoother than if you just had romantic relationships because someone of the same sex has an idea of what you are feeling and the issues that might be at hand. Someone of the opposite sex might sympathise but that does not mean that they understand. A same-sex friend is more of a support system, someone who understands and can help you through it.
Storm and Stress (Arnette)
Question 1:
Hall said that adolescence is marked by arguments with parents, mood swings, and risky behavior. I agree with all these and I would also like to add that adolescents have mood swings but their continuous mood seems to mean. I know when I was a teen I was mean. I had friends that were mean and we did not like to interact with people who were unlike us. We thought we were awesome, we weren't the most attractive kids or the smartest, but we thought we were bad ass. We would drive off to west Hollywood and club hop, at sixteen, so that definitely falls into the risky behavior category.
I was the first born and the first girl on my dads side and I was hardly allowed to do anything or go anywhere. I would have to lie in order to go out. I felt like I was so independent and I knew what I was doing and that no one could touch me, I was invincible. I know this is a big part of growing up and spreading our wings, he own the world. Because of these feelings I butted heads with my parents a lot. Mostly with my dad and he being so overprotective. As for mood swings, not so much, I was just continuously irritated with people in general and I thought they were all dumb, especially my parents because they thought they knew better than me, but in fact all parents know more than their kids and kids need to get over it.
Question 2:
traditional cultures are usually more collectivist and their actions are seen as a representation of the family, the good of the family outweighs the good of the individual. I think that there is less strife in adolescence in these cultures because of the fact that bad behavior would shame the family. In industrialized cultures parents work outside of the family, traditional cultures have family businesses and everyone in the family works there, this leaves little breathing room for teens to act out. I think that family members are so intertwined that needs and concerns are addressed and do not have the time to cause strife or conflict within the teen.
I also think that because traditional cultures have the tendency to rely on the family that there is a closeness that is lost in industrialized cultures,
Hall said that adolescence is marked by arguments with parents, mood swings, and risky behavior. I agree with all these and I would also like to add that adolescents have mood swings but their continuous mood seems to mean. I know when I was a teen I was mean. I had friends that were mean and we did not like to interact with people who were unlike us. We thought we were awesome, we weren't the most attractive kids or the smartest, but we thought we were bad ass. We would drive off to west Hollywood and club hop, at sixteen, so that definitely falls into the risky behavior category.
I was the first born and the first girl on my dads side and I was hardly allowed to do anything or go anywhere. I would have to lie in order to go out. I felt like I was so independent and I knew what I was doing and that no one could touch me, I was invincible. I know this is a big part of growing up and spreading our wings, he own the world. Because of these feelings I butted heads with my parents a lot. Mostly with my dad and he being so overprotective. As for mood swings, not so much, I was just continuously irritated with people in general and I thought they were all dumb, especially my parents because they thought they knew better than me, but in fact all parents know more than their kids and kids need to get over it.
Question 2:
traditional cultures are usually more collectivist and their actions are seen as a representation of the family, the good of the family outweighs the good of the individual. I think that there is less strife in adolescence in these cultures because of the fact that bad behavior would shame the family. In industrialized cultures parents work outside of the family, traditional cultures have family businesses and everyone in the family works there, this leaves little breathing room for teens to act out. I think that family members are so intertwined that needs and concerns are addressed and do not have the time to cause strife or conflict within the teen.
I also think that because traditional cultures have the tendency to rely on the family that there is a closeness that is lost in industrialized cultures,
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